Remember the dialogues from the movie Serendipity?
"You just have to have faith.''
"Faith in what?"
Often we get into relationships obsessing with expectations in our heads. The initial spark of romance is unavoidable, of course. A constant presence of love hormones would fill your heart.
In the long run, taking a relationship less seriously may blossom into rather beautiful outcomes.
Few expert opinions for the lovebirds on how not to be too serious about your current love interest, so that it grows naturally to be the healthiest of any relationship.
Baby steps, baby steps
Have a gentle and relaxed first approach. Scrap all the unrealistic relationship desires from your head. The respective other may turn out to be a very different person from the picture you painted in your mind. Or it may create a surprisingly beautiful chemistry. Go on a few dates, and see how things turn out. No hurry!
The best plan is to have no plan
Save yourself from having a long-term plan, it is wise not to risk putting yourself in an emotional gamble. Once you take a relationship lightly—free from expectations, you get to know the real person organically.
Going on adventurous dates, cracking jokes, and sometimes just sharing meaningful silence— relish your own space as well as each other's company. The idea is to focus more on the fun part keeping aside the complications.
Too serious too soon?
When someone is too involved, sometimes they unconsciously make a lot of compromises on their personal comfort on account of that. This sort of seriousness results in bitterness in the long term. Unresolved resentment is a red flag and narrows down the scope of any relationship.
Getting too serious too soon is also a sign of looking for acceptance from the relationship. That would only entertain the idea of obsessing over a partner or an alliance.
Breathe in, breathe out
Loosening up and taking things lightly while still holding on to the commitment is a way of letting the relationship breathe. Couples fall in love, they create moments, fight and patch up. And sometimes, when things go wrong, people also fall out of love. The whole process is spontaneous.
Despite everything, life goes on. Flow with your own emotions without looking for an exit, closures are also spontaneous.
Like G.K Chesterton said in his book, "The reason angels can fly is because they take themselves lightly."
If someone is meant for you, or in other words, written in your destiny, you would meet again and again, in many excuses. Taking the feelings lightly and accepting its unsure consequences would only let you fly.